relationship rant

What is it with men liking to get bossed around by their wives/girlfriends? It makes no sense to me at all. If my husband organized my social life for me and insisted on me changing my clothes when I didn’t want to, and packed my suitcase for me and told me to change the message on my answering machine and made me go to the dentist more often, it would drive me insane. It even drives me insane to have to watch it happen with other couples - seeing the poor guy go all flabby and watching his wife on some weird power trip. What is up with that dynamic?! I think it's disrespectful. If I ever marry, it's gonna be to someone who can make his own decisions and take care of his own life and his own frickin' suitcase and isn't hanging around waiting for me to tell him what to do.

[which probably means I'll never marry]

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PS - after reading Osvaldo's comment, I was trying to figure out a way to more clearly pinpoint what I mean, and I remembered a passage in a book by Dorothy Sayers that sorta better illustrates it:

“Oh, my dear – don’t upset yourself like this. Say the word, and we’ll go right away. We’ll leave this miserable business and never meddle again.”
“Do you really mean that?” she said, incredulously.
“Of course I mean it. I have said it.”
His voice was the voice of a beaten man. She was appalled, seeing what she had done.
“Peter, you’re mad. Never dare to suggest such a thing. Whatever marriage is, it isn’t that.”
“Isn’t what, Harriet?”
“Letting your affection corrupt your judgment. What kind of life could we have if I knew that you had become less than yourself by marrying me?”
He turned away again, and when he spoke, it was in a queerly shaken tone:
“My dear girl, most women would consider it a triumph.”
“I know, I’ve heard them.” Her own scorn lashed herself – the self she had only just seen. “They boast of it – ‘My husband would do anything for me….’ It’s degrading. No human being ought to have such power over another.”
“It’s a very real power, Harriet.”
“Then,” she flung back passionately, “we won’t use it. If we disagree, we’ll fight it out like gentlemen. We won’t stand for matrimonial blackmail.”